Travel is an Exercise in Perception

Through the looking glass

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Mariellen Ward discusses how travel can teach us that we are not the center of the universe.

WHEN I TRAVEL, especially in India, I feel like Alice in Wonderland; I feel like Ive fallen into the rabbit hole, or stepped through the looking glass. I lose my bearings and everything is challenged, including my sense of self in the world and my ideas about how life and people should be.

And the experience of being in the alternate universe of a foreign country has helped me become more aware of myself and of the role perception plays in shaping reality.

In India, I meet other foreigners who tell me they think Pahar Ganj in Delhi is the real India, and who say the only way to travel in India is by staying in 150-rupee-a-night hovels. I also meet Delhi-born Indians who tell me they think Pahar Ganj is a ghetto and wouldnt go near it. They prefer Delhis five star hotels and the shopping malls of Gurgaon.

Delhi, India

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When I live with my partners Indian family in Delhi, I am accepted into the family and I live as an Indian. But when I travel, I am seen as a foreigner and as if I know nothing about the culture.

Most foreigners I meet in India experience what I can only describe as culture shock. But Ive spent so much time there, and have had such a unique glimpse into the culture, that I now feel at home. In a recent Twitter conversation with EliteTravelGal, I was shocked when ! she desc ribed the Ananda Spa in the Himalayas as off-the-beaten-path. To me, thats about as off-the-beaten-path as Niagara Falls.

Whats the truth?

The truth was a mirror in the hands of God. It fell, and broke into pieces. Everybody took a piece of it, and they looked at it and thought they had the truth. ~ Rumi

The truth is, we can only see the world through our own window. And the nature of our window depends on our culture, gender, age, background, experiences, beliefs, judgments, IQ, EQ, and everything else that goes into making us who we are.

Baby looking out window

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Perception is the reason one person loves Thailand and another Rome. Perception is why traveling can be fun and exciting; though you are visiting a place that is normal to the people who live there, to you it is novel and highly stimulating.

Perception is the reason one persons idea of an adventure is to get drunk on the beach with other travelers in Goa, whereas for someone else it would be living in a mud hut for a year in Africa and volunteering to work with AIDS orphans.

I have long been interested in perception and the nature of consciousness. I studied Gestalt Therapy for six years and practiced as a therapist for seven years. Ive also studied and practiced yoga for close to 20 years. Both say the same things: truth is in your experience, your experience is coloured by your perception, and you are a co-creator in your perception and thus in your reality of life.

And they both recommend increasing your mindfulness your consciousness to become aware of yourself. Yoga says you are a drop in the ocean of consciousness. You can become aware of you! rself as a single drop and as part of the ocean.

Wallpaper and humility

I always advise people to go to India with an open and trusting attitude. India is like the cave that Yoda sends Luke into. Luke asks, What will I find there? and Yoda answers, Only what you bring in with you.

I went to India knowing I would change, but not knowing how. Though I was lucky to have a very soft landing at the beginning of my six-month trip, I was still gob-smacked by the traffic, chaos, colour, and noise. On my first car drive in Delhi, I felt like I was on Mr. Toads Wild Ride.

Horns honking, cows in the road, bicycles piled high with unlikely goods careening between the cars, no one paying any attention to the lanes or the rules. It seemed like madness.

Five months later, when I strode confidently through Connaught Place in central Delhi and noticed that the touts didnt bother me they could see I wasnt a newbie and therefore not a prime target I was thrilled. I realized I had found my India legs and it felt like one of the biggest accomplishments of my life. I had discovered both inner strength and a much higher degree of tolerance and flexibility.

Since then I have traveled often to India, living with my Indian partner and his family, studying with my yoga teacher in Rishikesh, and trying to learn and understand what eastern spiritual leaders have been teaching since the dawn of recorded time: that truth is in your experience. You are not the center of the universe, but you are the center of your universe.

The wisdom of the ancient rishis (sages), who developed the art and science of yoga, gained their wisdom not with external instruments of measure, but by meditating. Deepak Chopra called them Einsteins of consciousness. Th! ey used the human mind as a portal to the universe.

We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are. ~ Talmud

It seems to me that its hard to see your own wallpaper. We all have preconceived ideas about the world; we carry around a set of assumptions, but we often dont realize it until something comes along to shake us up. Like travel.

But even travelers and people who blog about travel spend what I think is an inordinate amount of time trying to get others to agree to their truth; or not realizing that their version of the truth is personal. For example, so many discussions are around trying to figure out whats right or whats cool or whats authentic, whereas only the person who is experiencing it knows whether its right, cool, or authentic.

Im not saying I do not fall into this trap I do. Its hard to be a conscious person. But I think its worth trying.

The last of human freedoms is the ability to choose ones attitude in a given set of circumstances. ~ Viktor Frankl

I know from my own experience that it can be humbling to find out you are not the center of the universe. But if you learn the lesson with a dose of humility, it can open up a new universe to you. It can open you up to realizing that there is only one thing you can change or control, and thats your attitude. It is only one thing, but it is a very powerful thing.

Community Connection

Have you had an experience of coming back to a place with a new way of perceiving it?

How had it changed, and is it always possible to reshape our realities by learning to be flexible in our perception?


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